This is a review for a book I just read for Blogher. It's up on my other blog as well.
I'll admit--Shakespeare's not really my thing. I read a few plays
required in high school, but Shakespeare is really more Jeremy's thing.
He read it, acted in it, even sacrificed his body for it when he had
his nose broken by broadsword during Macbeth--turns out that stage blood
wasn't necessary after all.
But I thought this book
The Weird Sisters by Eleanor Brown sounded interesting, about three
adult women all returning for their own reasons to the home of their
parents, where their father, who is a college professor on Shakespeare
speaks to them and tries even to give cryptic advice to them through
lines of Shakespeare.
The book is
fascinating in that it is narrated by the sisters collectively. The
sisters tell of sister number one and her problems and then move on to
sister number two, still speaking strictly collectively but
omnisciently.
It’s a story about life and struggles, and though my life is
quite different from everyone in the book, I still found some parts that
really spoke to me.
After a conversation with her
fiancé Rose, the eldest, considers the way she has lived her life,
“[C]hasing some shadow of the way things were Supposed to Be? There
were days, yes, when Rose felt as though she had been on this earth
forever, since the dinosaurs at least, but she knew she was young. It
seemed so early to have signed her whole life away, but it seemed so
exhausting to change anything” (p 119).
I’ve found as I
get a little bit older that I really have held myself back according to
some standard of the way things are “supposed to be”. In many
different areas of our culture there are a lot of unspoken rules that I
find myself rebelling against these days.
At one point,
reflecting on their parents’ marriage they say, “We have always
wondered why there is not more research done on the children of happy
marriages. Our parents’ love is not some grand passion, there are no
swoons of lust, no ball gowns and tuxedo’s but here is the truth: they
have not spent a night apart since the day they married” (p 156).
Though
Jeremy and I spent our first night apart less than a month after being
married (he was traveling with BYU Men’s Chorus) I like this thought of
the simple things being meaningful in a marriage of true love—though I’d
still like a ball gown!
After Cordy, the youngest
sister, witnesses her Mom’s true frailties the sisters ask, “How old
were you when you first realized your parents were human? That they
were not omnipotent; that what they said did not, in fact, go; that they
had dreams and feelings and scars? Or have you not realized that yet?
Do you still call your parents and have a one-sided conversation with
them, child to parent, not adult to adult?” (p 262)
I
still remember the moment I realized this. The experience is too
personal to share. But, though I do still call my parents as a child, I
hope that I also often call as an adult as well.
Perhaps
because I’ve been appreciative of my own ecclesiastical leaders
recently I really welcomed Bean, the middle sister’s, “confession scene”
and counseling from Father Aidan. In confronting the true source of
bean’s behavior he advises her, “We all have stories we tell ourselves.
We tell ourselves we are too fat, or too ugly, or too old, or too
foolish. We tell ourselves these stories because they allow us to
excuse our actions, and they allow us to pass off the responsibility for
things we have done—maybe to something within our control, but anything
other than the decisions we have made” (337).
If that doesn’t cause pause for a moment of reflection on our own lives and behaviors then I don’t know what will.
I
recommend this book with reservations. The “F-word” (and variations)
was used about 6 or so times, and there was talk of sex—not descriptions
of sex, but talk of it. If you feel capable of skipping past a few
things like that then I think you’ll be able to find plenty of
interesting things in this book.
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